Let me begin with my own experience-
I have an 8-month-old baby, so I have gone through some ups and downs. Becoming a new father is an exciting feeling, but it also comes with some nervousness—questions about what to do or not to do. Overall, it’s a mix of emotions.
Hello fathers,
If you’ve just found out that you’re going to be a father for the first time, what was your reaction?
Was it indescribable joy?
Well, as the due date approaches, your role becomes crucial—not just caring for your newborn but also providing emotional and mental support to your partner, which is even more important to ensure a smooth experience for your family.
Here, I’ll share some practical experiences about the role of a new father and how to ensure your newborn and wife feel supported and loved during this time.
Be Present and Attentive–
This is one of the most important things you can do as a new father. It doesn’t mean just attending doctor’s appointments or handling medical matters. It means being attentively involved with your wife and providing her with both mental and physical support.
Most importantly, before focusing solely on your newborn, give your wife the attention and care she needs. Healthy parenting starts with a strong partnership.
DOs:
– Talk to the doctor frequently and take advice from them.
– Attending parental advice classes can also help.
– Give as much time and support as possible. Make her feel comfortable and relaxed.
– Help with household tasks to ease her mental pressure.
– Dismiss her worries and make her feel supported.
Preparation and Planning for the Newborn’s Arrival–
Preparation is key. Before your baby arrives, you and your partner should discuss the birthplace, pack hospital bags, and get the nursery ready. Ensure financial stability during this period. Be mentally prepared to make quick decisions and organize your surroundings to manage tasks more efficiently.
DOs:
– Keep your vehicle ready for emergency trips and inform everyone in advance.
– Have important contact numbers and information for your selected hospital and assigned doctor.
– Learn about post-birth care for both the mother and baby.
DON’Ts:
– Don’t wait until the last minute to act on the doctor’s advice.
– Don’t panic if things don’t go as planned—stay adaptable.
Support Before Labor and Delivery–
Always support your wife. Don’t let her feel alone in this journey. Stay by her side, hold her hand, and reassure her that you are with her every step of the way. It’s not just her journey—it’s yours too.
DOs:
– Communicate with the healthcare team and ensure her wishes are respected.
– Provide comfort with appropriate clothing, cooling, or anything else she needs.
Postpartum Care for Your Wife–
The postpartum period is challenging for every woman. After seeing your child and hearing their first cry, it’s an overwhelming feeling. Your wife will likely be in the recovery room, possibly in a deep sleep. She may experience a drop in body temperature and need observation for 4–8 hours. After this, she will wake up, see her baby, and attempt to feed.
DOs:
– Provide a noise-free space and ensure adequate rest and sleep.
– Help maintain her nutrition, hydration, and hygiene.
– Stay in touch with the nurses to ensure she receives necessary medications and care.
– Assist her with breastfeeding and help during nighttime feedings or diaper changes.
Be Hands-On with Your Baby–
It’s your baby, so stay connected and let them feel your presence. As a father, you have many emotional responsibilities, and you’ll need to take on some parenting tasks as well. These include feeding, bathing, bedtime routines, baby-wearing, playtime, and tummy time.
Share Household and Baby Responsibilities–
Good communication is key. Sharing responsibilities creates a smoother experience for both you and your partner.
Conclusion–
Being a new father is a journey full of mixed emotions and experiences. It’s challenging but rewarding. You can create a nurturing environment for your baby and partner by being supportive, prepared, and actively involved. Remember, you’re not just helping your wife—you’re building a lifelong bond with your child.
